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“This is me, as I am, and I am worthy of love and respect just as I am today.”

Hello my dears!

In our last email, we explored the powerful role that self-awareness & living concisely plays in building confidence.

As you now know, we can’t change what we can’t see. And when we finally start seeing ourselves clearly—our patterns, our beliefs, our habits—it can be eye-opening… and sometimes a little hard to face.

Because inevitably, when we become more aware, we’ll also come face-to-face with parts of ourselves we’ve spent a lifetime avoiding.

But this can also be the most liberating moments in our lives, because awareness combined with acceptance can already free us in ways we can't possibly imagine.

And that brings us to Step 2: Self-Acceptance.

This might be the most misunderstood (and most skipped) part of confidence work. I know I skipped it for years.

Let me tell you a story…

Growing up with a giant congenital nevus, I learned early on to disown parts of myself—especially the ones I believed made me different, or unlovable. One of my survival strategies was to literally train my eyes to ignore the right side of my face when I looked in the mirror. I could pretend it wasn’t there. I could pretend that other people didn’t notice. I could pretend that the attention I got was because I was beautiful—not because I looked different.

But under the makeup, behind the personality, beneath all that pretending… I was actually at war with myself.

I denied my pain. I pushed away the hurt, the anger, the fear of being seen. I convinced myself it “wasn’t that bad,” even though the shame lived deep in my bones.

It wasn’t until my therapist gently said to me, “That must have been really hard, growing up looking different,” that something cracked open. And it hit me like a wave.

All the feelings I had suppressed for decades came rushing to the surface.

But I realized something in that moment: when I finally allowed myself to see all of me... when I stopped fighting and started feeling... it didn’t destroy me. It actually freed me.

This is what self-acceptance actually means.

It’s not about loving every part of yourself instantly. It’s not about giving up or settling. It’s about saying:

Because without self-acceptance, confidence becomes an illusion. A performance. A house built on shaky ground.

When we accept ourselves fully—our flaws, our brilliance, our contradictions—we stop living in fear of being found out. We stop hiding behind perfectionism. And we can finally start to heal.

Here’s the truth I’ve come to learn:

You cannot hate yourself into confidence.
You cannot shame yourself into growth.
And you cannot build self-esteem by being at war with yourself.

So today, I invite you to get radically honest:

• What parts of yourself are you still fighting?
• What emotions have you been trying to outrun?
• What would happen if you met those parts of yourself with compassion instead of judgment?

Who is radical self love & acceptance for?

But Let’s get one thing straight:
​Radical self-love and acceptance is not just for people “into personal development.”

This is not just for women. It's not just for the ones going to retreats or reading self-help books. This isn’t some hippie-dippy, sit-in-a-circle-and-sing-Kumbaya kind of concept (though hey, no shade if that’s your thing though).

Radical self love is for anyone who is tired of living in quiet self-rejection. Anyone who has ever looked in the mirror and winced. Anyone who feels like they’re hustling for love, approval, or worthiness. Anyone who wants to finally feel free... in their body, in their mind, and in their life.

Radical self-acceptance is a foundational human need.

It's even for you if you’ve ever felt like you had to earn love. Or shrink yourself to be accepted. Or constantly fix yourself to feel enough.

The first steps to radical self love and acceptance?

So how can you actually begin?

1. Begin with awareness.​
Notice where you're at war with yourself. Pay attention to the parts you avoid, criticize, or try to “fix.” Start naming what’s true—even if it’s hard.

2. Get curious, not cruel.​
Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” try asking, “What is this part of me trying to protect or express?” Shift from judgment to curiosity.

3. Tell the truth.​
Admit what hurts. Admit what’s hard. Be willing to say, “Yes, this part of me exists, and I’m learning to hold it with compassion.”

4. Start small, but be consistent.​
Look in the mirror and make eye contact with yourself—even for 5 seconds. Write a letter to the part of you you’ve tried to hide. Speak one kind sentence to yourself a day.

5. Remember: Acceptance ≠ giving up.​
It’s the opposite. Acceptance is the gateway to real, lasting change—because you can’t transform what you’re still rejecting.

As we move into the next step (taking responsibility and aligned action), this inner foundation of deeper self awareness and love (through compassion= matters more than anything.

You don’t need to be perfect to be powerful. You just need to be willing to see, to feel, and to accept.

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